Tinder reveals ‘Ghosting’ is going out of fashion

Being ‘ghosted’ isn't fun and can leave daters feeling confused, let-down or both. Ahead of Halloween, Tinder is urging all singletons to think twice before ‘ghosting’ and instead encouraging them to date in a more considerate way. Because honestly - at Halloween there are already plenty of ghosts around. 

What actually is ‘ghosting’? ‘Ghosting’ is often referred to when someone who you’ve been messaging with or have met IRL then disappears into thin air without explanation, like a ghost. There can be many reasons given for ‘ghosting’ ranging from disinterest to fear of hurting someone, or the feeling that things have simply moved too fast.

‘Ghosting’ can be an unfortunate by-product of dating culture which has emerged in recent years. However, recent data suggests that ‘ghosting’ might actually start to disappear. Tinder’s own internal data* reveals that its members aged 18-22 are less likely to ‘ghost’ than those over the age of 33. These Members aged 33 and above are 31% more likely to ‘ghost’ than their 18–22-year-old counterparts.  

“Ghosting might seem like an easy way to spare someone’s feelings, but honestly, it’s cheugy! I think we should start being respectful of others feelings if we want to have authentic relationships”, Manav Bahl, 22 years, Mumbai, says. 

While ‘ghosting’ might seem like the easy way out, there are much better ways to end a relationship no matter how long you have been dating. Instead, try to be authentic and honest. That way, both parties get closure, which reduces uncertainty and saves both time and energy.

5 important tips to avoid ghosting

Keep this checklist in mind to ensure that you’re a healthy dater:

1. Be yourself, and be honest with your match
2. Consider your match or date's feelings
3. Be clear with your feelings and intentions for the person you’re dating
4. Be sensitive to your match or dates needs and preferences
5. Respect your match or date's boundaries and don’t compromise your boundaries 

And don't forget… What ghost around comes around…